A companion post to Episode 1: Cultivating the Feeling of Empowerment Around Money
I used to think empowerment around money was something that would show up later – when I hit a certain number in my account or when I landed the dream job, or the dream house. When I finally stopped worrying about money altogether.
Here’s the plot twist: I felt the least empowered around my money when my family income was at its highest and I felt the most empowered when I was living in poverty, in the middle of navigating a horrible divorce.
Sometimes it takes sitting in the middle of unrelenting hard financial times to drive the need to find a way to feel good anyway – especially since the other option means continuing to feel panicked and miserable all the time and never sleeping again.
It’s Not a Dollar Amount. It’s a Skill.
Financial empowerment isn’t a place you arrive at once your numbers look a certain way. It’s self-trust. It’s knowing that you can figure out what you need to figure out — not that you already know everything, not that everything is guaranteed to be okay, but that you’ll be okay, even when things aren’t.
It’s knowing you’ve got your own back.
And like any skill, it’s built — through habits, through small repeated choices, not through one dramatic overnight transformation. You don’t go from feeling hopeless about money to feeling completely secure in a weekend. But you can get there. From anywhere. That’s the part I want you to actually believe.
Four Things That Build (or Quietly Erode) Financial Empowerment
1. Knowledge
Not knowing everything — just knowing your own situation. What’s coming in, what’s going out, who you owe and how much. It sounds obvious, but so many of us avoid this basic clarity because we’re scared of what we’ll find, or scared of feeling stupid for not already knowing it.
Here’s the thing about that fear: nobody is born understanding life insurance, mortgages, or how interest works. I once asked everyone I knew what kind of life insurance they had, and not a single person could tell me what type of plan they had — even though most of them owned a policy. We’re all just figuring it out. The people who seem to have it together are usually just a few questions ahead of you, not fundamentally different.
2. Our histories
We learn about money emotionally long before we ever learn about it practically. The tone in our childhood homes — whether money was something spoken about openly or something tense and hidden — shapes how our nervous system reacts to money today, decades later. That flinch when you open your banking app? It’s rarely actually about the number on the screen. It’s old wiring.
3. Self-talk
This might be the biggest one. Do you talk to yourself like a harsh critic when money gets hard, or like someone who has your own back? Stories like I’m bad with money or I’ll always be an impulse spender aren’t facts — they’re just sentences we’ve repeated enough times that they started to feel true. And the wild thing is, it doesn’t matter whether they’re accurate. Our brains believe what we tell them. The real question isn’t “is this story true,” it’s “does this story make me feel like trying, or like giving up?”
4. Who we surround ourselves with
What’s normal in your circle becomes what feels normal for your life. If every conversation is about the price of gas and how broke everyone is, that becomes the ceiling. If the people around you talk about ideas, plans, and possibility, that becomes the ceiling too. You don’t need to overhaul your whole social life — just start noticing which conversations leave you feeling like something is possible, and which ones leave you feeling stuck.
The Goal Was Never “More”
This podcast isn’t about chasing millions or hitting some magic number where you’ll finally relax. It’s about becoming someone who feels grounded and capable right now, exactly where you are — because that groundedness is what actually changes how you show up. In your relationships. In your work. In how you treat yourself when things get hard.
Shifting how we feel matters as much as any other action we might take with our money or more. I wouldn’t have left a miserable marriage without doing this work. I wouldn’t have started a business. All of the amazing things I’ve done in my life started with finding a way to quiet the panic long enough to move in the direction I wanted to be moving in.
The goal was never to be a millionaire. It was to feel peaceful about my money and to feel capable of living the life I want to live with it.
That’s what we’re building here, one small shift at a time.
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Dawn Evans is a writer, tax specialist, and advocate for financial and personal empowerment — always a little bit of everything.
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